Self Confidence is Yours For the Taking

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If you’re reading this, you possibly have a problem with self confidence. Has your shyness ever jinxed your prospects of deserved success and recognition? For instance, has your confidence crumbled just before making an important presentation that could have made all the difference in your career?

Or have you been struck dumb with stage fright just before delivering a speech that you had prepared hard for? If so, you are doubtlessly aware of how debilitating and destructive shyness can be.

Before you proceed, try to understand what true self confidence really is. It is certainly a lot more than mere bluster and flashiness. It is a deep-seated attitude fed by a positive belief about oneself and one’s ability to control matters that impact one’s life and plans. Put more simply, self confidence is the quality that allows you to acknowledge your ability to do something, and to take appropriate action when required.

The main factor that breeds self confidence in us is positive support in our endeavors during childhood. If your parents endorsed you sufficiently during your childhood years, you are apt to be self confident in adulthood.

By the same coin, if your parents were overly critical of you and failed to acknowledge your strengths, they will have dampened your overall confidence in yourself considerably. The keywords here are unconditional love and acceptance despite our imperfections.

However, this does not mean that lack of such support in our formative years dooms us to insecurity for the rest of our lives. It is possible to undo the damage of a negative self image brought forward from childhood, and to acquire high levels of self confidence in adulthood.

Remember that even though loving support by our parents in childhood is a vital cornerstone, true self confidence actually does not depend on others’ positive reinforcement. In fact, it stands firm even if one fails or is faced with a lot of criticism.

Of course, such confidence does not come from self-help manuals. To a large extent, it is experiential. If you know beyond any doubt that you have the capacity to do something, it is only because you have been successful in similar undertakings before.

In other words, the first step towards greater confidence in your self is to acquire the courage to try new things. This does not mean that you laugh at your fears and launch yourself headlong into a tricky boardroom negotiation, or onto a competitive sports field.

The journey can begin under far more controlled circumstances. Mark up small victories to begin with, and build your self confidence level by gradually taking on larger challenges. You will soon find a decided difference in how you see yourself. Whenever you find your self confidence flagging, recall these accomplishments and be inspired by them.

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