Are you available March 1st?Sent Tuesday, February 21, 2012 ?

Hey...hey...hey, How was your evening? 

Mine, AMAZING!!! 

Want the really personal details? I had a delicious meal (this time much earlier),
lit some candles, and drew a bath for my fiancé and I. 

Let's just say the experience was better than any dream. 

As I strolled over to my laptop just now, a strong wave of gratitude washed over me. 

Less than 4 year ago I wouldn't have believed that I'd have built the life I now have
for myself. 

"What do you mean Sean?" Four years ago... I really struggled financially, almost lost my
office space cause I could barely pay the rent. 

The girls I dated were extremely volatile and not truly in love with me. 

My book ("Get Off Your BUT"), had been rejected by nearly every major publisher
in the business. 

I wanted to give up so badly. I vividly remember sitting in the rain outside my office
building alone, crying and screaming under my breath... "WHAT AM I DOING WRONG?"

Fast forward to today... 

I am wildly in love (and marrying) the most stable, intelligent, and gorgeous woman I've 
ever met. 

My book is published and on the shelves in bookstores around the world (in several different 
languages). And my message has reached MILLIONS upon MILLIONS of people through the power of
Youtube and television. 

So, what do I credit as the source to these powerful manifestations? Simple, CONFIDENCE.
Love, wealth, and vitality all take a strong sense of self-confidence to attain. 

While this might just sound like I'm bragging, I'm really not. I didn't come out of the womb
confident. 

I also didn't just wake up one morning and find confidence under my pillow. 

I worked my tail off for the confidence I now have. 

Sadly, most people, (wrongfully)

This is so UNTRUE. Confidence is a state of mind & being that can be learned. Once a person
embodies true self-confidence (not arrogance) they can't be stopped. 

Actually, confidence is a key that unlocks all of our wildest dreams.

If you want to build wealth, find love, get in shape, or be the best parent to your children,

you're gonna need confidence. 

I've NEVER, and I do mean NEVER met any who was happily successful that didn't have strong
self-confidence.

Here's the problem, most people think that confidence is something you either have or
you don't...far from it. Confidence is a learned behavior. 

In all the presentations I've presented over the past 16 years of speaking,
the #1 request people have is... TEACH ME TO BE MORE CONFIDENT, PLEASE! 

I've taught elements of confidence over the years; however I've never dedicated a massive
amount of time teaching it exclusively, until now. 

If I'm going to achieve my massive life mission, "ridding the world of insecurity", 
it's gonna take teaching (at great lengths) how to generate sustainable self-confidence. 

So, for the first time in my teaching history I'm going to walk all those interested
through a process of generating unstoppable self-confidence. The same self-confidence that
led a fragile little dude in a wheelchair to a life of jet-setting, global notoriety,
true-love, and deep inner peace.

 On MARCH 1st, 2012 at 5:00pm PT I am going to hold a FREE tele-seminar (a course on
the phone) called, "The Key Is Confidence." 

On this program I am going to walk you through HOW I developed my self-confidence, what you
need to do to remain confident under pressure, and how NOT to be, or be seen as, arrogant.

 If this is something you'd be interested in attending please join me. 

I look forward to our time together on March 1st, 2012.
Details will follow in the remaining days.

Be well,
Sean

This beautiful look at the world through the eyes of very young and old beholders of the world has been spreading across Youtube.   I hope you  will  take it in and send it on it’s way. Think Facebook and any other social media you enjoy.

Most of our choices require confidence and courage. It takes a lot of courage to choose to speak up and to let someone know how you feel, especially if that person has authority over you. It takes confidence, on the other hand, to try new things. It takes confidence and courage to put yourself first.

The good news is that most of you can work on pumping their confidence and courage. Here are a few tips on how to do just that:

1. Recognize your confidence and courage. Confidence is that “I can do it” feeling. Chances are, you’ve felt it at some point. Maybe it was right before a game. Or maybe it was just before a test that you studied for thoroughly. Courage, on the other hand, isn’t necessarily the absence of fear. Sometimes, courage is about being scared and going ahead with something anyway.

2. Start small. To build your confidence and courage, take small risks where you have a good chance of succeeding. You could do this, for instance, when you already know you can do two out of the three steps required. By accomplishing this first, you can gain more skills to go after a more challenging goal, like becoming a reading tutor. After you gain confidence by conquering small risks, you’ll feel ready to take bigger ones. Each new challenge can build your confidence even more.

3. Face your fears. Fear can be your gut’s way of warning you, though too many fears can hold you back from taking a risk or going after a dream. Are you afraid of failing? Are you afraid of looking silly? To overcome fears like these, think about their source. Often, fears come from being uncomfortable with the unknown or feeling out of control. But sometimes, the cause is that you don’t believe that you deserve success. Give yourself a boost by telling yourself that you can do it and are worth it.

4. Don’t worry about being imperfect. Lots of girls are on the ‘be-perfect treadmill.” They believe that they have to look and be perfect n order to be accepted and loved. However, this is far from the case. You don’t need to do everything right or be number one all the time. To build confidence, don’t try to be perfect and live on the edge a little. Practise taking risks where you’re sure to make some mistakes.

5. Find heroines. Having heroines comes in great when you’re building up your confidence and courage quotient. Your heroine or role model could be someone in your family, in your community, or in the public eye. She might even be someone from the past. Determine which qualities and values that you aspire to have that your heroine has and then try to develop them for yourself.

It is never easy to develop our courage and self-confidence. However, we have to develop both in order to act in a self-assertive fashion and to take the kinds of risks that will help us to excel in life.

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For some, being self confident and assertive come naturally while there are those who have to struggle just to possess these qualities. If you are one of those who find it very challenging to build self confidence and assertiveness, then the following tips will help you out:

o Mingle with society

If you are someone who prefer being alone and consider yourself an outcast, then you must change that attitude. Feel more confident about yourself by mingling with other people. Don’t be shy to attend parties, attend conferences, watch concerts, and join in other social events that will expose you to different kinds of people.

o Be bold

Do not be contented with staying in your comfort zone. Being bold and daring can sometimes be rewarding especially when it comes to facing the challenges that come your way. Do not be afraid to face your fears. You must be bold enough to try something different for a change. Do not be a mere follower all the time; instead take responsibilities by being a leader every now and then.

o Think positive

You must look at the bright side of things especially when things grow wrong. One of the reasons why people fail to build their self confidence and assertiveness is because of the fact that they are easily discouraged once they make a mistake. They easily feel downhearted and think negatively of themselves that they no longer have the courage to stand up again each time they fall. If you want to be confident and assertive, you have to be optimistic. Apply the lessons you learned from your mistakes and do things right the second time around.

o Accept yourself

So what if you don’t look like a supermodel, a hot actor, or someone who always makes it in the papers? You have to accept who you are and what you have. Remember that no two individuals are exactly alike and you are unique from others. You have your own potentials which you have to develop and use for your own good. Once you accept yourself, it will be easier for you to have that confidence in your capabilities.

Being self confident and assertive is not so easy. It requires time and effort on your part to be the person you want to be. Just remember to follow the tips above and you will not get lost.

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It matters little whether we call him Super-ego or Conscience however what does matter is to understand the little guy’s function, how he works and how he can be influenced to intercede in our favor.

One of the problems that we find with that little guy is that he’s very much influenced by the Ego. And that was especially true when we were very young. If for some reason our Ego was bruised by some disparaging remarks, the little guy would take it way too seriously and lower our level of self-esteem and by the same token, our level of self-confidence.

In some cases, those negative remarks came from parents, teachers, friends and peers. Not necessary individuals who were qualified to give valid opinions on the subject of our true worth. However our little guy took those opinions to be the gospel truth and lowered our self-esteem.

So in order to build that self-esteem again, we need to have several talks with the little guy and make him understand that some of those degrading remarks were certainly not warranted and that he has to disregard them.

Early age self-assessment of our worth created a powerful belief regarding our identify and how we perceive ourselves. In cases where a negative self-image was created, the belief has to be changed. That can be accomplished by repeatedly using positive affirmations and by finding evidences that will disprove the original belief. The process might require intense and prolonged efforts but the results can be spectacular.

Every day that we live, our little guy keeps on assessing our performances. His main concern is the level of our commitment to be all that we can be. When we perform as well as we can, he will raise our self-esteem. When we don’t, self-esteem will suffer.

We cannot fool the little guy. He knows when we use excuses and pretexts to cover an unacceptable performance. And he also knows when we assume the victim role to please our ego. Failing to assume personal responsibility for whatever happens to us is seen as a cardinal sin that is simply not acceptable.

What the little guy inside our brain wants to see is for us to face life’s challenges with courage, give our best and be true to ourselves. He understands that there will be setbacks and that we will fail sometimes. In those instances we will not be penalized so long as we acted courageously, performed to the best of our ability and did not shy our responsibilities.

Self-esteem should depend almost exclusively on how we evaluate our performances and to a much lesser extent on the results that we achieve. That is something else that we should make sure that our little guy knows about. He’s the one who sets to tone for the level of our self-esteem but we’re the one who should set the rules.

One of the most precious possessions that we can ever hope to have is a strong and healthy self-esteem. With it we see life through an entire different set of lens. Getting to like and appreciate ourselves has been called the ultimate seduction. So called because when we have it, little else is needed to make us feel happy. Thus the importance to please the little guy that resides in our brain.

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Here’s the good news! Self-confidence can be built in any area of your choosing. It may take some time, patience, practice and awareness, but people build confidence every day. Many times we don’t even realize we are doing it. Building confidence is like building muscle. You start out slowly, taking little steps, pushing yourself just a little further each time, until you arrive at your final destination of accomplishing a specific task with proficiency.

If you are lacking self-confidence on the job, the first thing you might want to consider is to write down where you do feel confident in the tasks you perform, and where you do not. Once you’ve identified the areas where you are lacking, ask yourself what it would take for you to feel confident in those areas, and write it down. Do you need more training? Do you need more practice? Is it really in your skill set? If you can look at what you need to do, then you can formulate a plan to start acquiring the skills, tasks, or practice that you believe you need.

In doing this exercise, it will become apparent to you that there are steps you can take. All is not lost and it is not something you have to endure, tolerate or be embarrassed by. This knowledge alone will help boost your self-esteem and your confidence. Because instead of feeling inept about yourself and your abilities, you will realize you can improve your performance once you have your new and different tools.

Now, break down how you will go about acquiring the new skills and tools you need. Break them down into baby steps so the bigger goal does not seem overwhelming. Then put a plan in place for accomplishing each step. Every time you take a step you are building your muscle of confidence.

While you are working on building long-term, enduring confidence in your abilities, here are just a few quick things you can do to change your mood, your mindset and your inner feelings of confidence.

3 Ways You Can Boost Self-Confidence and Get Ahead in the Workplace:

Give yourself a make-over. Or perk yourself up. This isn’t to impress anyone else, but to make yourself feel better and more upbeat. Studies show when you feel good about the way you look, it puts in a positive, confident light for others to see.
Give yourself extra time to prepare. If you are working on a project or a presentation, give yourself ample time to prepare, longer than you normally need. Knowing the material you are presenting or the details of a project on which you are working will immediately boost your self-esteem, confidence and knowledge. This will show in your conversations with your team and your supervisors.
Focus on your progress. Make a list of everything you have accomplished at work in the past 90-days…and the past year. Make notations next to each of the things you feel really proud of accomplishing. Note any positive comments or appreciations that were paid to you by your team or supervisors in regard to those accomplishments. Also note any activities where you felt you did not feel as adequate. Think about what you could do, learn or change next time to receive a better or more positive response. It’s good to have areas in which you need to improve! It allows you to continue to grow and excel.

Remember, confidence is your belief about the level at which you can perform a given task with ultimate capability. So start raising the bar for yourself…just a little at a time. Take a course that will help you become proficient at a new task relating to your professional position. Ask if someone in upper management can act as a professional mentor to you. Ask if you can be a professional mentor to someone who needs your skills. All of these actions will help you feel more capable, show off your abilities, and gain you new skills.

True life fulfillment begins by mastering self-esteem and confidence. You have the power to have the life, the career and dreams you desire.

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Real self confidence is not based on our achievements or our successes in this world but it is based on the fulfillment of who we are, what our purpose is and what we represent to ourselves, our families and to the world around us.

If a person has such self confidence then he can generate confidence and faith in others. Actually, to fail is not much of a loss, to lose character & integrity is a major loss to our inner life.

A person with proper disposition and attitude is willing to accept even major failures in the eyes of the world in order to preserve the high values that he or she believes in.If we are willing to sell our ideals, our ethics, our character, our integrity, and our very soul for the adoration of this world, then our so called self confidence will be built on a foundation of sand. It has no real substance and it can bring us no real fulfillment.

Low self esteem really means a lack of real inner fulfillment. Six common indicators of low self esteem are,

1. People with low self esteem like to gossip. Why? Because that is what gives them pleasure. They do not have any substance inside. On the other hand, people who are actually self confident speak of their ideals in life and not of the faults of others.

2. A person with low self esteem is quick to criticize others, whereas a person with some inner fulfillment is respectful to others, he is naturally longing to show respect to others, to be caring toward others.

3. A person with low self esteem is arrogant. He thinks “I have done this, I have conquered these nations, I have made these millions, and I have won these tournaments and so on. They are very eager to try to convince other people of how great they are, how successful they are, and what they have accomplished within this world. But a person with actual self confidence is humble. Why? Because they simply do not need to impress people with cheap words of conceit. If you are actually very weak within, you have to brag about whatever great or little things you have done to try to get the approval, the recognition, and the adoration of others. But if you have inner fulfillment, if you have confidence in yourselves, you do not need that.

Once a sage in the Himalayas told me that when you do something good and you tell somebody about what you did, by that telling you exhaust most of the credits of what you have done.

4. In the world today we want to take credit for what we have not done and we want to give blame to others for what we have done.This is another quality of a person with low self esteem. He makes excuses, and blames others for their apparent shortcomings, whereas a person of self confidence does not make excuses, does not blame others, and takes responsibility of what they have done or what they have not done, and is always striving to improve.

5. Persons with low self esteem are dependent on the appreciation, praise and approval of others, whereas a person with self confidence is willing to speak what is true and do what is right even if it is very unpopular. Especially for the youth in the world today association is such a powerful influence. Most people smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol or do all illicit things, not simply because they really want to do it. They do it because they want to look cool and they want to be accepted by the people around them. But integrity means we understand what is right and we do it-even if people criticize us, even if people make jokes or laugh at us. Eventually, those same people will come to us when they are in trouble because they understand that here is a person with integrity.

6. Those with low self esteem are easily jealous about other people successes. What is jealousy? That means we are so hollow, so empty within, there is so much lack of fulfillment in our worth, our value, and who we are that we actually have to feel a type of hatred and jealousy towards others who appears to be better. A person with real self confidence is the well wisher of everyone. He is not so concerned about reputation but is concerned with character. He is not so concerned with what one can get and what one can prove to others through fashion, through way of speaking, through way of talking and by the type of furniture one has at home. He is more concerned with what they are giving to others. Actual self confidence does not mean we become absorbed in our egoistic self. The art of real self consciousness is to become selfless, because in becoming selfless there is inner fulfillment.

So it is very important to understand that real self confidence is not simply about what I have achieved and what I have conquered, because that kind of self confidence does not bring any real inner fulfillment: whatever you do, you always have to have more, more and more. Real self confidence is when we are actually finding fulfillment and satisfaction with who we are and what we represent within this world.Now some fools may think that that type of self confidence, that type of inner peace is an impediment to making great strives of achievements in this world. The opposite is however true. The purer our motive, the greater courage and faith we will have to accomplish things way beyond the horizon of even our imagination. When we have such inner self confidence, anything we pursue is actually easy. It may be difficult mentally and it may be difficult physically but when we have the will, the confidence and the faith, that makes anything easy.

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There is a fundamental reason that such little headway has been made on these issues on which I will expound on here.

That fundamental principle is as follows:

Qualities such as: self confidence, self esteem, self worth, inner peace, emotional strength, joy, love, contentment, fulfillment, health, resilience, courage, integrity, calmness, happiness, optimism, uplifting feelings, peace of mind and so on are all inherent elements of what is called your Life Force Energy.

Life Force Energy is essentially the energy that maintains the integrity, structure and proper functioning of your mind and body. When one’s Life Force Energy becomes depleted for any reason not only do they feel drained, depleted or exhausted they also suffer the experience of lacking all of the above qualities I mentioned.

Having one’s Life Force Energy depleted from one’s body, by the way, is also recognized as the process of dying.

So what causes one’s Life Force Energy to be depleted from the body?

Well many of you will invoke that well known concept called “stress”. What is stress?

Basically it is the experience, not the cause of the depletion of that Life Force Energy from your body. In other words it equates “dying”.

That which depletes the Life Force Energy from the physical body is the memory of the “stressful” event which after it gets “stored” in the mind/body remains there and acts as what I call a Life Force Energy “Parasite” that continuously drains your life energy.

This then accounts for things like low self confidence, low self esteem etc.

Can anything be done about this situation if one cannot change the past?

Absolutely!

A new process called the Mind Resonance Process® (MRP) can allow you to release these energy parasites from within you permanently thereby helping you reclaim not only your Life Force Energy but all of its inherent qualities thereby enhancing spontaneously your self confidence, self esteem and so on.

If you’d like to experience this kindly visit the links below.

Nick Arrizza MD, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor is an International Life, Executive, Organizational Tele-Coach, Author, Keynote Speaker, Trainer and Facilitator who lives in Toronto, Canada. He is also on Faculty at Akamai University in Hawaii. He is the CEO and Founder of Arrizza Performance Coaching Inc. and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A 1 hour free introductory MRP telephone consultation is available upon request by visiting my web site or emailing me at the address below. (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

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